What are you effecting?

Do you understand the cause and effect? 

Many of us go through life almost...drifting. Like the choices we make don't end up effecting others. I don't mean the expressions upon our face, the simplest things may cause emotions in others. It may not be anything we can actually control mind you. I believe we control our own emotions. I don't make you happy...you allow yourself to be happy...get it? I'm speaking of the decisions, actions, and effort we make in which effects others.

When I make a decision, I attempt to think who and what I am causing. I try to work out the scenarios, solutions...not with everything mind you. This would just make me stop doing most anything! Don't you want to be a person who is able to CAUSE? I can't guess how it is going to make person X feel...not all the time. If you know them well enough, you can predict this. We've all seen this in our own relationships...right? I would hope you can...be aware!

The expression you're wearing on the subway ride into work...should you care it reminds the person across from you of a situation they've had?

The choice you make to cut that person off while driving. However we justify it saying...well they drive too slow! What if this was someone you know!? I always ask myself, would I be able to confront this person later?

The cat calls to a woman. What effect does this have on her? Does this help her ego? Does this only make her more insecure? I decided long ago I would not such to a woman. I have Sisters in which I wouldn't want someone doing this to them. So, therefore I ask myself...would I want someone doing this to my family? 


The actions you take on a day to day basis...who are you effecting? I've made some poor choices not thinking of who I would affect in my personal life. It's always much easier when you are dealing with machines, because you know who and what is to happen when you pull the trigger to down or change something.

This is such a large topic and could spawn off into many different directions. I guess what I am asking is to STOP, and realize we are living with one another more than we know. Wake up and see who and what you cause! We're all trying to survive and make our way. There is no reason to make it anymore difficult upon others. If you see that there is...please take inventory of yourself and your purposes.

First let me start by saying this...I believe that everyone has a viewpoint, everyone has a perception. This perception and viewpoint varies from everyone. It could be different from another simply due to the position in which you are standing. I believe it goes something like this...imagine if there was a person walking down the street. They are holding a shopping bag from a shoe store, looks like a recent purchase. They are wearing stylish clothes, walking with confidence. The assurance comes off as arrogance to some, and impertinence to others.
It depends upon so many things as to how others view this.
Then this person trips upon the sidewalk in which they are walking. There are three people who witnessed this occurrence.
The first person had been watching because they noticed the bag in which this confident person was holding. Imagining it held the boots in which they viewed, but did not purchase this morning. There is much more in which this person would notice...possibly.
The second person notices the "cockiness" in which the trendy person was walking with...the swagger in which they walked with.There is much more in which this person would notice...possibly.
The third person notices that they did not touch or fall to the ground at all and just looked around. After collecting self. First checking if anyone had seen what just occurred, then taking inventory of themselves to make sure all was uninterrupted. There is much more in which this person would notice...possibly.
Why is this that three people who witness the same occasion see things so differently? If you break it down...they simply observed a person walking and tripping on a sidewalk. The weather? The time of day? The way the sun was blocked by a sign in which hid the raise in pavement. These things another may have noticed...if it was important to them. Some, but not many...may have felt empathy for this person. They themselves have been there. We all have. However, how do they then communicate it?
My point is this...we all have a perception of the things we witness. All three of the observers could agree upon seeing this. However, the details in which people observe are clouded by their own lives and what is occurring at that time. I as another human want to be able to respect that others have their own viewpoint. I want to respect that people have their ways. It's who they are, its what they have achieved or learned as to the why they are able to express the reasoning behind it. Everyone should be able to express this and have it acknowledged with respect.
Heck, there could be a fourth observer who is confined to a wheelchair who's only thought is..."I wish I could do that". Just to be able to be tripped up while walking would be a gift to another.
Accept, understand and be willing to trip up every now and again.